This has been a very difficult year for us, financially. My husband got laid off, I quit both my jobs (thinking we were moving), we unsuccessfully tried to sell our house (which has depreciated in value), and we lost money on a home we had hoped to purchase. We are not unique in America these days. There are many many people who are much worse off than my husband and I. I know people who have actually lost their homes and businesses due to similar circumstances to those my husband and I are experiencing. We are managing to hang on for now, but there has definitely been a toll on our collective morale. There isn't any extra money for going out to eat, for vacations, or for helping our kids. Bills come in the mail, have to be juggled, and there are often uncomfortable conversations as to how we are going to pay for something necessary. I have been able to buy a little bit of fabric, but nothing like I would in the "good ol' days".
Something got me musing today. I have taken on another part time job at a local womens' clothing store. The pay is really ridiculously low, but the gals I work with are fun, and the discount on clothing is generous, and with my interest in fashion, I am glad to have a reason to get dressed up and out of the house several days a week.
The shop where I work is in the city of Carmel-By-The-Sea, California. Carmel is a tourist destination, and the site of a number of upscale events during the year. Pebble Beach (a neighboring town) is the location of many golf tournaments, and the Laguna Seca Raceway is the place where many an automotive event is held. At this time, the main event going on in our area is the Concours, where affluent (and not so affluent) people gather to celebrate The Automobile. There are amazing cars all over the place, at all times, but if you want to buy a ticket to actually attend the event, you need to shell out $175 per person. For the most part, the people who live here can't afford to attend the event. Consequently, there are a lot of rich folks milling about town, amidst the rest of us peons.
Today I had an attractive customer, a woman who was around 50, who piled up a good number of garments at our cash wrap desk. She declined to try anything on, as she was familiar with our brand, and needed a few new pieces to wear in our cool ocean temperatures which she had not packed for. As I was ringing her up, I inquired if she had thought about getting one of our store charge cards, since she seemed to like our clothes so much. "Oh, yes, I should probably do that", she said. I had to ask her a few personal questions in order to open the charge account, one of which was "What is your annual household income?" She wrote it down on a little Post It Note for me.
$3,500,000. Per year.
Now, I am not planning to take up knitting, turn into Madame Defarge, and declare I despise all people more fortunate than myself. But really. The discrepancy in income between this woman and myself is beyond ludicrous. How do people DO it? I tell you, I am feeling very sorry for myself, and wish to hear any words of encouragement.
120 responses to “Just Thinkin’”
Hang tough! I can see your point. It would be better to not be around the affluent with no income worries.
Love of family will get you thru this. It is a temporary set back.
Meanwhile sew from your stash and make smaller projects like you said.
Blog to vent. Walk your dog to exercise.
Smile, do good for others.
Take Care.
Hang tough! I can see your point. It would be better to not be around the affluent with no income worries.
Love of family will get you thru this. It is a temporary set back.
Meanwhile sew from your stash and make smaller projects like you said.
Blog to vent. Walk your dog to exercise.
Smile, do good for others.
Take Care.
Oh, Nicole – no one deserves what you’re going through. These are scary times and the ones who have high incomes seem to be doing fine but the rest of us – it’s paycheck to paycheck or maybe not even that. I hate to inject politics into it but I think businesses are reluctant to start hiring because they don’t know if the tax cuts will expire, if new taxes are coming, and they don’t know what the implication of the health care bill will be (nobody read it so nobody knows!). The government should have given the stimulus money to all of us (it was our money anyway). We then would have saved GM by buying cars and we would have paid off the toxic mortgages. Those people in Washington are supposed to be serving us so why do a lot of them leave office wealthier than when they went in? We need to vote carefully in November.
Sorry, you didn’t need to read all that but I am so sick of everything that’s happening. This is America! You and your husband are good people and this will all work out. The state of California is in such tough shape, there might be other opportunities elsewhere but I know how difficult it is to move. This too shall pass.
Karen L.
Oh, Nicole – no one deserves what you’re going through. These are scary times and the ones who have high incomes seem to be doing fine but the rest of us – it’s paycheck to paycheck or maybe not even that. I hate to inject politics into it but I think businesses are reluctant to start hiring because they don’t know if the tax cuts will expire, if new taxes are coming, and they don’t know what the implication of the health care bill will be (nobody read it so nobody knows!). The government should have given the stimulus money to all of us (it was our money anyway). We then would have saved GM by buying cars and we would have paid off the toxic mortgages. Those people in Washington are supposed to be serving us so why do a lot of them leave office wealthier than when they went in? We need to vote carefully in November.
Sorry, you didn’t need to read all that but I am so sick of everything that’s happening. This is America! You and your husband are good people and this will all work out. The state of California is in such tough shape, there might be other opportunities elsewhere but I know how difficult it is to move. This too shall pass.
Karen L.
I tell myself that I’m happier, have a wonderful world of people I love around me and can sleep at night because I’m not worried about what will happen to my millions!
~Adrienne~
I tell myself that I’m happier, have a wonderful world of people I love around me and can sleep at night because I’m not worried about what will happen to my millions!
~Adrienne~
You could have used this as an opportunity….become a personal shopper for these ladies and their clothes…or personal assistant…you like clothes, they like to shop for clothes…I’m thinking a win-win situation.
You could have used this as an opportunity….become a personal shopper for these ladies and their clothes…or personal assistant…you like clothes, they like to shop for clothes…I’m thinking a win-win situation.
My husband has been out of work for the last year (he just landed a decent contract this week), and it has been pretty tough around here, especially tough trying to keep my eyes on the big picture when I have to deny myself day after day what I never used to think of as luxuries. I’m not normally a Pollyanna, but some recent events in our community and circle of friends have reminded us that money is far from the most important thing. Some of the wealthiest people I know are either suffering from debilitating heath issues or have estranged children. Not that you need me to tell you this, of course! But I hear ya, and I can truly understand where you’re coming from. But hang in there – good times will come again!
My husband has been out of work for the last year (he just landed a decent contract this week), and it has been pretty tough around here, especially tough trying to keep my eyes on the big picture when I have to deny myself day after day what I never used to think of as luxuries. I’m not normally a Pollyanna, but some recent events in our community and circle of friends have reminded us that money is far from the most important thing. Some of the wealthiest people I know are either suffering from debilitating heath issues or have estranged children. Not that you need me to tell you this, of course! But I hear ya, and I can truly understand where you’re coming from. But hang in there – good times will come again!
I’m so sorry for what you are going through. $3,500,000! Even though those types of people are in your face probably on a daily basis in that area, they are really few and far between. I try to look at it like this, how fortunate for her that she doesn’t have the terrible financial problems like some do. I wouldn’t want to wish that on anyone. When I get on a “Jean Pity Party” and complain that I can’t have the big house and the money, I tell myself, “for the same reason everyone else in this housing track can’t. I’m no better than any one of them.” I made choises so here I am.”
The year has been difficult for us as well with health issues, divorce and my son’s impending deployment. But through it all I try to surround myself with my good friends and family (and Maggie), treat myself well, and try to treat others well. I usually leave myself last when it comes to care so I’ve gone to my caring doctor who prescribed medication to take the “edge” off things. I know that some don’t believe in that but believe me, it helps. I’m going to take steps to improve my health via medication but mostly diet and exercise.
I know the Lord is in control and I have to believe He has a plan. In the meantime, my mantra is always from the movie What About Bob, “baby steps, baby steps.” I know things will get better for you, dear friend, just keep the faith. In the meantime you are in my thoughts and prayers.
One more thing. You don’t know how much I admire you for being able to write a post like this. It takes a lot of courage.
I’m so sorry for what you are going through. $3,500,000! Even though those types of people are in your face probably on a daily basis in that area, they are really few and far between. I try to look at it like this, how fortunate for her that she doesn’t have the terrible financial problems like some do. I wouldn’t want to wish that on anyone. When I get on a “Jean Pity Party” and complain that I can’t have the big house and the money, I tell myself, “for the same reason everyone else in this housing track can’t. I’m no better than any one of them.” I made choises so here I am.”
The year has been difficult for us as well with health issues, divorce and my son’s impending deployment. But through it all I try to surround myself with my good friends and family (and Maggie), treat myself well, and try to treat others well. I usually leave myself last when it comes to care so I’ve gone to my caring doctor who prescribed medication to take the “edge” off things. I know that some don’t believe in that but believe me, it helps. I’m going to take steps to improve my health via medication but mostly diet and exercise.
I know the Lord is in control and I have to believe He has a plan. In the meantime, my mantra is always from the movie What About Bob, “baby steps, baby steps.” I know things will get better for you, dear friend, just keep the faith. In the meantime you are in my thoughts and prayers.
One more thing. You don’t know how much I admire you for being able to write a post like this. It takes a lot of courage.
Great discussion so far… and I would add that I’d be glad she had the money to spend in the shop you work in, so that you get a paycheck (as measly as it is) – I hope all the folks like her keep spending what they earn. 🙂
(Husband’s company shut down 16 months ago, he’s working 2 part-time jobs and constantly scrambling for work he can do, manual labor, whatever… We’re surviving.)
Great discussion so far… and I would add that I’d be glad she had the money to spend in the shop you work in, so that you get a paycheck (as measly as it is) – I hope all the folks like her keep spending what they earn. 🙂
(Husband’s company shut down 16 months ago, he’s working 2 part-time jobs and constantly scrambling for work he can do, manual labor, whatever… We’re surviving.)
It certainly does seem like the gap between the haves and have nots is widening. Just remember, however bad it is, it could be a lot worse. Hang in there : )
It certainly does seem like the gap between the haves and have nots is widening. Just remember, however bad it is, it could be a lot worse. Hang in there : )
I’m on the slim to nothing bench with you, Nicole. It’s isn’t fun in the least but I have a stash of fabrics that I love to sew from and that brings me joy.
Due to health issues I’m not sure where the light at the end of the tunnel is for us, but I’m about to apply for disability as much as I hate to consider myself disabled. Lupus fatigue means I cannot meet up to anyone’s attendance policies. It stinks!
Hang in there! You’re in good company. I’ll keep you in my prayers.
Hugs!
I’m on the slim to nothing bench with you, Nicole. It’s isn’t fun in the least but I have a stash of fabrics that I love to sew from and that brings me joy.
Due to health issues I’m not sure where the light at the end of the tunnel is for us, but I’m about to apply for disability as much as I hate to consider myself disabled. Lupus fatigue means I cannot meet up to anyone’s attendance policies. It stinks!
Hang in there! You’re in good company. I’ll keep you in my prayers.
Hugs!
I agree with Barbara Anne…you are in good company because I’m right there with you. My husband was part of a “reduction in work force” last October from the company he had been with for over 20 years and still no job on the horizon. Two kids in college and one a senior in high school, but you know what, this challenge has drawn us together as a couple and as a family. We know that God has the best for us and that’s what we focus on.
And I always try remember…If everyone in the world threw their problems into a great big pile, we’d most likely pick our own problems back up because at least we know what we’re getting.
I agree with Barbara Anne…you are in good company because I’m right there with you. My husband was part of a “reduction in work force” last October from the company he had been with for over 20 years and still no job on the horizon. Two kids in college and one a senior in high school, but you know what, this challenge has drawn us together as a couple and as a family. We know that God has the best for us and that’s what we focus on.
And I always try remember…If everyone in the world threw their problems into a great big pile, we’d most likely pick our own problems back up because at least we know what we’re getting.
Nicole, I love your blog. Thank you for sharing with us so many facets of your life. I began reading because I am a quilter. Then I found I loved to read your thoughts, actually expressions of feeling, about so many things. I admire your ability to be open. Many years ago I read a book called “Why Am I Afraid To Tell You Who I Am?” The answer found within the pages is “I’m afraid to tell you who I am because if you really knew me, you might not like me, and then I would be devastated.” It seems to me that a healthy positive outlook is synonymous with “letting others know who you are”. You have that in abundance and I have no doubt that you will get past these little toe stubbers and that your victory will be an inspiration to the rest of us. Thank you.
Nicole, I love your blog. Thank you for sharing with us so many facets of your life. I began reading because I am a quilter. Then I found I loved to read your thoughts, actually expressions of feeling, about so many things. I admire your ability to be open. Many years ago I read a book called “Why Am I Afraid To Tell You Who I Am?” The answer found within the pages is “I’m afraid to tell you who I am because if you really knew me, you might not like me, and then I would be devastated.” It seems to me that a healthy positive outlook is synonymous with “letting others know who you are”. You have that in abundance and I have no doubt that you will get past these little toe stubbers and that your victory will be an inspiration to the rest of us. Thank you.
I sure hope our economy improves soon and I hope that your husband is able to find a new, secure job!
I sure hope our economy improves soon and I hope that your husband is able to find a new, secure job!
And the gap between the very wealthy and the people like us is only getting wider–and the number of very poor and homeless is increasing. This, to me, is the great tragedy in this country.
And the gap between the very wealthy and the people like us is only getting wider–and the number of very poor and homeless is increasing. This, to me, is the great tragedy in this country.
Nicole,
I understand. We are in the same boat, so let’s hope it does not capsize. I do not begrudge those who are more fortunate. It is just life and I will try to make lemonade instead of sour tarts. I will forge into my left over fabrics and make a quilt for the ages :). The poor ages. However, as long as we are healthy and we have our family, we are blessed. Thanks for your blog.
Nicole,
I understand. We are in the same boat, so let’s hope it does not capsize. I do not begrudge those who are more fortunate. It is just life and I will try to make lemonade instead of sour tarts. I will forge into my left over fabrics and make a quilt for the ages :). The poor ages. However, as long as we are healthy and we have our family, we are blessed. Thanks for your blog.
I don’t think I have shared this with many people but I’ll put it out there.
I once was without a home. I don’t call myself homeless because I never was out in the streets but not having a roof over your head regardless of where you set yourself down to sleep feels the same. I had family I could have gone to but I chose to live three weeks in a shelter and stand on my own. My daughter was barely 2 at the time. I was a college drop out and single mom. I took assistance from the government and with that help I was able to feed my daughter, get childcare and go back to college. Three years later I was a college grad with the world open before me. When I couldn’t find a job after graduation I worked 9 months as a stock person hauling boxes in the back of a retail store but in another 2 years I was off all government assistance and paying my own share of taxes. When I bought my own house I sat in the parking lot and cried. I still get teary eyed when I remember that day. My family understood that this was my journey and was there always to support me whenever I reached out. I think the hard times made me very cautious and made me teach my daughter to tread carefully in the world of personal finances. But it also made me teach her that the most important thing in your life is not what is stashed at the bank but what you have in your heart. That your true friends and family are a treasure beyond compare. That you don’t need millions in the bank to enjoy your life. When you are up to your neck in bills and you just cannot see the trees from the forest. Just breath. Cry if you may and then get up, wash your face off and move forward because this too shall pass and you will be stronger because of it. Love heading your way!
I don’t think I have shared this with many people but I’ll put it out there.
I once was without a home. I don’t call myself homeless because I never was out in the streets but not having a roof over your head regardless of where you set yourself down to sleep feels the same. I had family I could have gone to but I chose to live three weeks in a shelter and stand on my own. My daughter was barely 2 at the time. I was a college drop out and single mom. I took assistance from the government and with that help I was able to feed my daughter, get childcare and go back to college. Three years later I was a college grad with the world open before me. When I couldn’t find a job after graduation I worked 9 months as a stock person hauling boxes in the back of a retail store but in another 2 years I was off all government assistance and paying my own share of taxes. When I bought my own house I sat in the parking lot and cried. I still get teary eyed when I remember that day. My family understood that this was my journey and was there always to support me whenever I reached out. I think the hard times made me very cautious and made me teach my daughter to tread carefully in the world of personal finances. But it also made me teach her that the most important thing in your life is not what is stashed at the bank but what you have in your heart. That your true friends and family are a treasure beyond compare. That you don’t need millions in the bank to enjoy your life. When you are up to your neck in bills and you just cannot see the trees from the forest. Just breath. Cry if you may and then get up, wash your face off and move forward because this too shall pass and you will be stronger because of it. Love heading your way!
Money isn’t everything. It truly doesn’t buy happiness, or love. People with money have close ones who get sick, or die, just like the rest of us. (They can just afford to look better).
This year we are having to be very careful with money – and one of the things I’ve done is work on all those projects in my stash that I haven’t done yet. It’s amazing what a stash can yield! I get to keep sewing, and have saved a bundle by not buying almost any new fabric.
Money isn’t everything. It truly doesn’t buy happiness, or love. People with money have close ones who get sick, or die, just like the rest of us. (They can just afford to look better).
This year we are having to be very careful with money – and one of the things I’ve done is work on all those projects in my stash that I haven’t done yet. It’s amazing what a stash can yield! I get to keep sewing, and have saved a bundle by not buying almost any new fabric.
I agree with all the sentiments above. “There but by the grace of God go I….” Life would not be pretty if one of us got laid off. It did happen 15 years ago to my husband and we made it through ok. Hugs and prayers and words of encouragement sent your way.
I agree with all the sentiments above. “There but by the grace of God go I….” Life would not be pretty if one of us got laid off. It did happen 15 years ago to my husband and we made it through ok. Hugs and prayers and words of encouragement sent your way.
Thank you, Sandy, for sharing your experience. It is good to be reminded that it is all temporary.
Nicole, I went through a situation similar to what you are experiencing. My husband was in graduate school and I had just finished. At the time, we lived outside of Detroit (where the economy has arguably been hardest hit) and I couldn’t find a job for fourteen months. I finally was able to get a job with a famous bookstore working part-time and for next to nothing, but we were able to pay some bills. I often had bouts with mild depression as I struggled with my educational level, my PT job (and how people made you feel like crap for working service, I mean, how much education could you have, right?) and struggling to pay the expenses we had. Then the student loans came due… that’s another story.
It’s a struggle to stay positive when you’re in it, but imperative to your health. Just remember to take it one day at a time, be grateful for what you do have, and turn to your friends and family when you need a pick-me-up. That’s why they’re there.
Good luck.
BB
Thank you, Sandy, for sharing your experience. It is good to be reminded that it is all temporary.
Nicole, I went through a situation similar to what you are experiencing. My husband was in graduate school and I had just finished. At the time, we lived outside of Detroit (where the economy has arguably been hardest hit) and I couldn’t find a job for fourteen months. I finally was able to get a job with a famous bookstore working part-time and for next to nothing, but we were able to pay some bills. I often had bouts with mild depression as I struggled with my educational level, my PT job (and how people made you feel like crap for working service, I mean, how much education could you have, right?) and struggling to pay the expenses we had. Then the student loans came due… that’s another story.
It’s a struggle to stay positive when you’re in it, but imperative to your health. Just remember to take it one day at a time, be grateful for what you do have, and turn to your friends and family when you need a pick-me-up. That’s why they’re there.
Good luck.
BB
Here is the other side of the coin, I bet her husband wasn’t there for dinner, kids homework, birthday parties, skinned knees and dance recitals. Many people don’t realize what others sacrifice to make those high incomes. A fellow I know is rich beyond belief, but he’s had 3 divorces, trusts no one, had nannies raising his kids, but yes, he’s rich. He is worth billions. I’m not worth 300,000, but I have my home, dog, quilting, friends, and I sleep at night. I lost my mom, then my husband, moved 2 times, went from longarm quilting full time to office work full time, then battled breast cancer and am still dealing with the side effects. But I’m SO happy. My friends are great, my 1600 sq ft house is a home and I can manage it on my own. The less you have in “stuff”, the less you have to worry about it. I also have friends who kept buying and buying and buying, I told her, “if your husband has that kind of money to buy this land, I would take it and retire”. That was 3-4 years ago. Today, everything they have is in foreclosure, EVERYTHING. Every farm, home, business. So sometimes things aren’t always what they seem. Love your hubby, enjoy your new job, love the idea of being a personal shopper, be thankful there are people out there with income that can shop and support your p/t job. You have lots to be grateful for, chin up!
Here is the other side of the coin, I bet her husband wasn’t there for dinner, kids homework, birthday parties, skinned knees and dance recitals. Many people don’t realize what others sacrifice to make those high incomes. A fellow I know is rich beyond belief, but he’s had 3 divorces, trusts no one, had nannies raising his kids, but yes, he’s rich. He is worth billions. I’m not worth 300,000, but I have my home, dog, quilting, friends, and I sleep at night. I lost my mom, then my husband, moved 2 times, went from longarm quilting full time to office work full time, then battled breast cancer and am still dealing with the side effects. But I’m SO happy. My friends are great, my 1600 sq ft house is a home and I can manage it on my own. The less you have in “stuff”, the less you have to worry about it. I also have friends who kept buying and buying and buying, I told her, “if your husband has that kind of money to buy this land, I would take it and retire”. That was 3-4 years ago. Today, everything they have is in foreclosure, EVERYTHING. Every farm, home, business. So sometimes things aren’t always what they seem. Love your hubby, enjoy your new job, love the idea of being a personal shopper, be thankful there are people out there with income that can shop and support your p/t job. You have lots to be grateful for, chin up!
Nicole, what I like about you and your blog is that you are real. A real person with real daily life experiences. On occasion I have been envious of your life, so I hope that makes you feel better. Not the part about your husband losing his job or worrying about finances. But I have been envious of the amount of time you have to quilt and your beautiful quilts, the time you have to read, your ability to decorate and the beautiful area where you live. All the money in China doesn’t make one happy. It’s the little things, the love of family, our faith, the abilty to create with our hands (our quilts, gardens , homes, etc.)
Keep your chin up. Things will turn around. They always do.
Nicole, what I like about you and your blog is that you are real. A real person with real daily life experiences. On occasion I have been envious of your life, so I hope that makes you feel better. Not the part about your husband losing his job or worrying about finances. But I have been envious of the amount of time you have to quilt and your beautiful quilts, the time you have to read, your ability to decorate and the beautiful area where you live. All the money in China doesn’t make one happy. It’s the little things, the love of family, our faith, the abilty to create with our hands (our quilts, gardens , homes, etc.)
Keep your chin up. Things will turn around. They always do.
I hear ya, I always say it should be against the law for people in the top 2% to have that much money, getting all those tax cuts while the rest of suffer trying to hold on to what we have. It just isn’t right. So I fully appreciate what you’re saying. I don’t have any words of wisdom, just try to keep your chin up, it will pass.
I hear ya, I always say it should be against the law for people in the top 2% to have that much money, getting all those tax cuts while the rest of suffer trying to hold on to what we have. It just isn’t right. So I fully appreciate what you’re saying. I don’t have any words of wisdom, just try to keep your chin up, it will pass.
Let me tell you, this too will pass. In the first ten years of our marriage, my husband was laid-off, and took a different career path. This was the best decision he could have made, for our family, in the long run. In the short run, it was hard, half cut in wages, I needed to go to work, cutting back severely, you know the drill. Now, that we’ve been married over 46 years, and retired, I appreciated his judgement, even more. Was it easy? NO. Was it worth it? YES.
Let me tell you, this too will pass. In the first ten years of our marriage, my husband was laid-off, and took a different career path. This was the best decision he could have made, for our family, in the long run. In the short run, it was hard, half cut in wages, I needed to go to work, cutting back severely, you know the drill. Now, that we’ve been married over 46 years, and retired, I appreciated his judgement, even more. Was it easy? NO. Was it worth it? YES.
Nicole, I’ve been a single mom for 11yrs, lost the house and what little financial support I received from their dad was fought for tooth and nail and is still deep in arrears. I too went to college and work as a medical secretary and have a longarm home based buisness. I work very hard and feel like I’m not moving ahead, just treading water. The kids are moving along in their lives and as they move out and I see how tired everything in my house feels and the lack of energy I feel…….well it does get pretty discouraging at times esp when I see how so many other womens lives appear to be…so I’m back to what I learnt many years ago….count my blessings people I love, a roof over my head, a job that for the most part I enjoy. I may never accomplish all my dreams but at the end of my life will it really matter? besides I’ll have lots of quilts to leave behind.
I hope that things start looking up soon!
Nicole, I’ve been a single mom for 11yrs, lost the house and what little financial support I received from their dad was fought for tooth and nail and is still deep in arrears. I too went to college and work as a medical secretary and have a longarm home based buisness. I work very hard and feel like I’m not moving ahead, just treading water. The kids are moving along in their lives and as they move out and I see how tired everything in my house feels and the lack of energy I feel…….well it does get pretty discouraging at times esp when I see how so many other womens lives appear to be…so I’m back to what I learnt many years ago….count my blessings people I love, a roof over my head, a job that for the most part I enjoy. I may never accomplish all my dreams but at the end of my life will it really matter? besides I’ll have lots of quilts to leave behind.
I hope that things start looking up soon!
Dear Nicole…. Hang in there. When you hit bottom there is no place to go but up. What amazes me is that your kindred spirit comes through in your blog and you appear not to be bitter. I live in So. Calif., so if you’re ever in my area – stop by for a cup of coffee. I also have a huge stash (of fabric) I’d love to share with you. Will be thinking of you and your family.
Terry in So. Calif.
Dear Nicole…. Hang in there. When you hit bottom there is no place to go but up. What amazes me is that your kindred spirit comes through in your blog and you appear not to be bitter. I live in So. Calif., so if you’re ever in my area – stop by for a cup of coffee. I also have a huge stash (of fabric) I’d love to share with you. Will be thinking of you and your family.
Terry in So. Calif.
Our son (age 47) was out sourced from IBM a year ago where he had worked for 25 years. (because it was to a foreign country he had a very good package to include health care for a year and full salary for 6 months) he and family first cut back all non essentials and discovered they liked the freedom of no Cable TV, dropping the data plan on the phone, eating all meals at the family table, talking with the 2 children about needs and wants etc. The oldest has since graduated from college and the younger sister will be a senior in HS this year. Our son used some money to buy a nice camera and a bird feeder and learned how to be a really competent photographer. He actually won some prize money from 3 of his pictures. He job searched every day on the internet(which they had to keep) and networked with friends and former co-workers. His wife got a part time job. He never got anxious although I suspect his wife did. He finally found his dream job (he is a techie in a town full of techies) as the IT go to person at a small but close knit company only 10 minutes from home. It pays less than his fancy job but they had already learned to live on less and everyone is happy. I am really proud of them and how they handled it.
Re reading this it might not be obvious but the bird feeder was to photograph birds – he had been a birder in the past but with his job at IBM he had no time for hobbies.
Our son (age 47) was out sourced from IBM a year ago where he had worked for 25 years. (because it was to a foreign country he had a very good package to include health care for a year and full salary for 6 months) he and family first cut back all non essentials and discovered they liked the freedom of no Cable TV, dropping the data plan on the phone, eating all meals at the family table, talking with the 2 children about needs and wants etc. The oldest has since graduated from college and the younger sister will be a senior in HS this year. Our son used some money to buy a nice camera and a bird feeder and learned how to be a really competent photographer. He actually won some prize money from 3 of his pictures. He job searched every day on the internet(which they had to keep) and networked with friends and former co-workers. His wife got a part time job. He never got anxious although I suspect his wife did. He finally found his dream job (he is a techie in a town full of techies) as the IT go to person at a small but close knit company only 10 minutes from home. It pays less than his fancy job but they had already learned to live on less and everyone is happy. I am really proud of them and how they handled it.
Re reading this it might not be obvious but the bird feeder was to photograph birds – he had been a birder in the past but with his job at IBM he had no time for hobbies.
My first thought ~ she’s lying.
Seriously. I think she’s lying. I’m sure she’s got money ~ or her husband does ~ but my experience is that most people who really DO have that kind of money don’t advertise it. They don’t need to. This woman needed to make you jealous of her good fortune (if it is true), or she needed to make herself feel like “more” by making you feel like “less”. Even if she really does have that kind of annual income, she is insecure enough to need to flaunt it. Whatever the case, feel sorry for her shallowness, her vanity, and her need to be validated.
I do feel for you with the ups and downs you’ve had this year. You work a lifetime for security and comfort, do everything you’re “supposed” to do, and then in a blink of an eye, through no fault of your own, it all disappears. It doesn’t seem fair. But things could be worse.
I read an article the other day, written by a man with cancer. In essence, he wrote that there is a part of him that wants to yell at the Gods, “why me?”, but life is such that he knows the answer to be “why not you?”
None of us is immune from hardship and maybe the lesson to be taken from the difficulties and troubles we’re all having is that we should be more appreciative of the blessings we do have.
And yes, there are days when you just want to say, “oh yeah? Well, bless this!” 🙂
My first thought ~ she’s lying.
Seriously. I think she’s lying. I’m sure she’s got money ~ or her husband does ~ but my experience is that most people who really DO have that kind of money don’t advertise it. They don’t need to. This woman needed to make you jealous of her good fortune (if it is true), or she needed to make herself feel like “more” by making you feel like “less”. Even if she really does have that kind of annual income, she is insecure enough to need to flaunt it. Whatever the case, feel sorry for her shallowness, her vanity, and her need to be validated.
I do feel for you with the ups and downs you’ve had this year. You work a lifetime for security and comfort, do everything you’re “supposed” to do, and then in a blink of an eye, through no fault of your own, it all disappears. It doesn’t seem fair. But things could be worse.
I read an article the other day, written by a man with cancer. In essence, he wrote that there is a part of him that wants to yell at the Gods, “why me?”, but life is such that he knows the answer to be “why not you?”
None of us is immune from hardship and maybe the lesson to be taken from the difficulties and troubles we’re all having is that we should be more appreciative of the blessings we do have.
And yes, there are days when you just want to say, “oh yeah? Well, bless this!” 🙂
Dear Nicole, The woman who has to write down this extravagant income might have just written down $350,000 or much less and left it at that because one tenth her amount is surely enough to get a store credit card. She is part of a class of people who are paid way more than they deserve so it’s not income, it’s theft from the people who do the difficult work in this world. The disparity between rich and poor in this country is a big problem and I don’t know how we solve it. “Regular folks” must find happiness without a huge amount of money and remember that most of the world is far less affluent than the “regular folks” of America.
Kathleen in Kansas
Dear Nicole, The woman who has to write down this extravagant income might have just written down $350,000 or much less and left it at that because one tenth her amount is surely enough to get a store credit card. She is part of a class of people who are paid way more than they deserve so it’s not income, it’s theft from the people who do the difficult work in this world. The disparity between rich and poor in this country is a big problem and I don’t know how we solve it. “Regular folks” must find happiness without a huge amount of money and remember that most of the world is far less affluent than the “regular folks” of America.
Kathleen in Kansas
Just the other day I was sewing with three other quilting buddies and we had a conversation just about this topic! It seems to me that people can get an education and work hard day after day and still be praying the AC doesn’t go out because there is no money for it…and I know plenty have it worse off than me, and still I feel sorry for me (and you!). Here’s hoping the economy improves and soon.
Just the other day I was sewing with three other quilting buddies and we had a conversation just about this topic! It seems to me that people can get an education and work hard day after day and still be praying the AC doesn’t go out because there is no money for it…and I know plenty have it worse off than me, and still I feel sorry for me (and you!). Here’s hoping the economy improves and soon.
I probably would have laughed or at least giggled at seeing how much that lady’s income was for a year. I’ve had good jobs, bad jobs and at present, no job. During the time I made good money, I bought and paid for a house and paid all my bills off. I stocked up on fabric. I really haven’t taken any vacations. I’ve got a few friends, my quilting, and the internet to keep me informed and bloggers who share their lives with me. I’m happy or at least content.
By the way, in all the 40+ years that I’ve worked, the total of my pay is no where close to what that lady’s income is for one year.
I don’t know if this is any sort of encouragement for you – but happy (contentment) is what you make it.
I probably would have laughed or at least giggled at seeing how much that lady’s income was for a year. I’ve had good jobs, bad jobs and at present, no job. During the time I made good money, I bought and paid for a house and paid all my bills off. I stocked up on fabric. I really haven’t taken any vacations. I’ve got a few friends, my quilting, and the internet to keep me informed and bloggers who share their lives with me. I’m happy or at least content.
By the way, in all the 40+ years that I’ve worked, the total of my pay is no where close to what that lady’s income is for one year.
I don’t know if this is any sort of encouragement for you – but happy (contentment) is what you make it.
Nicole, You’ve received so many good comments that there is really not much more that I can say except to add my good wishes for a speedy resolution to your current situation.
My husband was a self-employed consultant so there were many months (years) when we really did not have a lot of money coming in. Thank goodness I always had a good job with excellent benefits. Now that we are both retired we are comfortable (not rich by any means)and I almost feel guilty when I hear about others such as yourself who are going through a rough (hopefully short) patch.
Nicole, You’ve received so many good comments that there is really not much more that I can say except to add my good wishes for a speedy resolution to your current situation.
My husband was a self-employed consultant so there were many months (years) when we really did not have a lot of money coming in. Thank goodness I always had a good job with excellent benefits. Now that we are both retired we are comfortable (not rich by any means)and I almost feel guilty when I hear about others such as yourself who are going through a rough (hopefully short) patch.
Hang in there. Everybody said everything else I could ever say. I grew up in a church with the slim-to-nothings (that was us) and billionaires, so I got used to people with money not being any different than you or I when it came right down to it–except in some ways their lives WERE easier. No getting around that one. But I’m not jealous of their money–am happy to have my little set of problems, help out where I can.
My daughter’s story reads like yours. She has heart disease at the tender age of 30, raising three children, her husband can’t find a job (now working for his father), just graduated from college, and they lose their health insurance next month. I’ve been quite inspired by the stories others have shared on the blog; I have my own, but feel blessed at this point to help others, although we’re still on the slimmer side of the balance sheet. But all in all we’re doing fine.
Obviously we all enjoy reading your blog. I wish you a good day, a lovely day in that loveliest of areas (I love Carmel!).
Hang in there. Everybody said everything else I could ever say. I grew up in a church with the slim-to-nothings (that was us) and billionaires, so I got used to people with money not being any different than you or I when it came right down to it–except in some ways their lives WERE easier. No getting around that one. But I’m not jealous of their money–am happy to have my little set of problems, help out where I can.
My daughter’s story reads like yours. She has heart disease at the tender age of 30, raising three children, her husband can’t find a job (now working for his father), just graduated from college, and they lose their health insurance next month. I’ve been quite inspired by the stories others have shared on the blog; I have my own, but feel blessed at this point to help others, although we’re still on the slimmer side of the balance sheet. But all in all we’re doing fine.
Obviously we all enjoy reading your blog. I wish you a good day, a lovely day in that loveliest of areas (I love Carmel!).
the gap is getting bigger…i am lucky enough to have a husband with a profession in which there is always work…it may not be his favorite, but it is work…
We have cut back also…our son is in his first year of college..on a scholarship and he works to pay for his own books..unlike his sisters, he lives at home instead of the dorm. We are surviving, but I worry about the ones that aren’t.
And there is nothing wrong with feeling sorry for yourself…as long as you realize it and don’t let it destroy you…
We are all in the same boat..
the gap is getting bigger…i am lucky enough to have a husband with a profession in which there is always work…it may not be his favorite, but it is work…
We have cut back also…our son is in his first year of college..on a scholarship and he works to pay for his own books..unlike his sisters, he lives at home instead of the dorm. We are surviving, but I worry about the ones that aren’t.
And there is nothing wrong with feeling sorry for yourself…as long as you realize it and don’t let it destroy you…
We are all in the same boat..
I have no words of advice because I often ask my husband, “What are we doing wrong?”. We’ve worked hard all our lives and live comfortably but I always wonder what these other people have done that I haven’t done. I have decided that they all inherited their money and since my parents were poor immigrants from Canada, this is it Chris. Sure hope your husband finds work soon. And aren’t you lucky to be the one to enjoy all the fine work you did on your house.
I have no words of advice because I often ask my husband, “What are we doing wrong?”. We’ve worked hard all our lives and live comfortably but I always wonder what these other people have done that I haven’t done. I have decided that they all inherited their money and since my parents were poor immigrants from Canada, this is it Chris. Sure hope your husband finds work soon. And aren’t you lucky to be the one to enjoy all the fine work you did on your house.
You have a really nice house and live in a great part of the country. You always seem to have the latest fabrics and patterns. You were able to find a job. You can pay your bills. Sounds like you have a lot to feel good about.
Money is not the best part of life. Happiness is. Choose happiness!
You have a really nice house and live in a great part of the country. You always seem to have the latest fabrics and patterns. You were able to find a job. You can pay your bills. Sounds like you have a lot to feel good about.
Money is not the best part of life. Happiness is. Choose happiness!
I’m fairly certain Nicole that most of us are much closer in income to you than to the customer you were helping. And like you we have to pinch here and there to get by. Hopefully we’re all stronger and more generous because of it. Thanks for sharing.
I’m fairly certain Nicole that most of us are much closer in income to you than to the customer you were helping. And like you we have to pinch here and there to get by. Hopefully we’re all stronger and more generous because of it. Thanks for sharing.
Wonder what she does for a living? Can’t imagine that sort of income…don’t think the surgeons I work with in the hospital even make that sort of dough…
Wishing for some better days ahead for you and your DH…
Wonder what she does for a living? Can’t imagine that sort of income…don’t think the surgeons I work with in the hospital even make that sort of dough…
Wishing for some better days ahead for you and your DH…
Money doesn’t buy happiness. Happiness comes from within oneself.
Hugs.
Money doesn’t buy happiness. Happiness comes from within oneself.
Hugs.
I’m sorry you’re going through some hard times right now. I think if we live long enough, we all go through them, some more extreme than others, but we all have our challenges. And it’s not easy to grit our teeth and trudge through them to better times.
I don’t begrudge the wealthy their income–I have met some very wealthy people in my life, and most of them were very hard workers and very nice people. I remember one couple where the woman used to take a needle and thread and repair her own underwear when they were first married. Not many people, including me, have ever had to do that. She has not forgotten where she came from.
It would be nice to think that the rich aren’t as happy or as blessed as those of us who are struggling financially, but that isn’t always true. We all have problems, different ones, maybe, but we all have our blessings, too. My husband and I aren’t well off, but things are better now than a few years ago; we’ve gone through a bankruptcy, a foreclosure, and a catastrophic illness that devastated us financially.
Happily, I am now able to sponsor a little girl in Bangladesh whose father makes $22.00/month. That’s one tank of gas for my 12-yr-old truck–and he feeds a family of six on that. It has really put things in perspective for me. There was a time we couldn’t afford to do this, but other people gave us a hand up, and this is one way we can pay the world back.
Some day this will be behind you, and you will be able to have what you need and be able to help someone else, too. And I don’t think you will forget where you came from, either.
I’m sorry you’re going through some hard times right now. I think if we live long enough, we all go through them, some more extreme than others, but we all have our challenges. And it’s not easy to grit our teeth and trudge through them to better times.
I don’t begrudge the wealthy their income–I have met some very wealthy people in my life, and most of them were very hard workers and very nice people. I remember one couple where the woman used to take a needle and thread and repair her own underwear when they were first married. Not many people, including me, have ever had to do that. She has not forgotten where she came from.
It would be nice to think that the rich aren’t as happy or as blessed as those of us who are struggling financially, but that isn’t always true. We all have problems, different ones, maybe, but we all have our blessings, too. My husband and I aren’t well off, but things are better now than a few years ago; we’ve gone through a bankruptcy, a foreclosure, and a catastrophic illness that devastated us financially.
Happily, I am now able to sponsor a little girl in Bangladesh whose father makes $22.00/month. That’s one tank of gas for my 12-yr-old truck–and he feeds a family of six on that. It has really put things in perspective for me. There was a time we couldn’t afford to do this, but other people gave us a hand up, and this is one way we can pay the world back.
Some day this will be behind you, and you will be able to have what you need and be able to help someone else, too. And I don’t think you will forget where you came from, either.
Hi Nicole, She might not be telling the truth.
Hi Nicole, She might not be telling the truth.
My husband and I had “surprise” twins, both took paycuts, and he’s worried about keeping his job. We live in Orange County– the meca of haves and have nots (you can’t believe everything you see on Tv 🙂 ) and we short sold our home and are likely forclosing on another property. I could TOTALLY sympathize with what you’re going through. Not to sound all “pollyanna” here, but honestly, the only thing that got me through it was gratitude. Everyday I was thankful for *something*… being healthy, having a job at all, my 3 great kids, my “stand by my side” hubby, my creativity, even ice water 🙂 Knowing that more people are without those things than are pulling in 3.5 mil a year made me feel loads better. Pay cut? Still have a job. Lost my dream home? Still can rent and have a roof over my head. You have to allow yourself some grief and sadness, but ultimately, whether you make millions or not, you are so far ahead of the game. Chin up– you are blessed!!!
My husband and I had “surprise” twins, both took paycuts, and he’s worried about keeping his job. We live in Orange County– the meca of haves and have nots (you can’t believe everything you see on Tv 🙂 ) and we short sold our home and are likely forclosing on another property. I could TOTALLY sympathize with what you’re going through. Not to sound all “pollyanna” here, but honestly, the only thing that got me through it was gratitude. Everyday I was thankful for *something*… being healthy, having a job at all, my 3 great kids, my “stand by my side” hubby, my creativity, even ice water 🙂 Knowing that more people are without those things than are pulling in 3.5 mil a year made me feel loads better. Pay cut? Still have a job. Lost my dream home? Still can rent and have a roof over my head. You have to allow yourself some grief and sadness, but ultimately, whether you make millions or not, you are so far ahead of the game. Chin up– you are blessed!!!
I wish you the best as it can just get you down some days and it is hard to see anything good about the situation. The woman with all that money might not have a happy life, just lots of money to spend…
My husband got laid off over one year ago and things are tough for us. But, I like to keep in mind that there are always people in worse situations and I count my blessings. I have enough fabric to make quilts for a small country. We have our halth, a happy marriage and two great kids. We are blessed.
I wish you the best as it can just get you down some days and it is hard to see anything good about the situation. The woman with all that money might not have a happy life, just lots of money to spend…
My husband got laid off over one year ago and things are tough for us. But, I like to keep in mind that there are always people in worse situations and I count my blessings. I have enough fabric to make quilts for a small country. We have our halth, a happy marriage and two great kids. We are blessed.
How refreshing to hear someone laying it out on the line. As I’ve read the comments, I agree with what most have said. I’ve been in your shoes having married young and raised our four kids on one income so I could stay home with them. I then went to four years of college when the youngest was 2. After beginning work full time (teaching) I was often upset that we still couldn’t afford what I thought we should have. Until my 18 year old super athletic son was diagnosed with a brain tumor. I would have given everything away to keep him healthy. Thanks God after two brain tumors he is a healthy 32 year old father and husband. I learned at that time that our health is waaaay more important than the other things I had wanted. It was at that time I promised to never pray for anything material or job related again. And by the way, my brother makes something in the neighborhood of what your customer makes, so that kind of throws it in our faces a lot. Still, I’ll take good health. If you’re all healthy get down on your knees and thank God. Everything else is immaterial. (Sounds kind of preachy. Yikes!) Try to write down something you’re greatful for each day. It helps put things into perspective.
How refreshing to hear someone laying it out on the line. As I’ve read the comments, I agree with what most have said. I’ve been in your shoes having married young and raised our four kids on one income so I could stay home with them. I then went to four years of college when the youngest was 2. After beginning work full time (teaching) I was often upset that we still couldn’t afford what I thought we should have. Until my 18 year old super athletic son was diagnosed with a brain tumor. I would have given everything away to keep him healthy. Thanks God after two brain tumors he is a healthy 32 year old father and husband. I learned at that time that our health is waaaay more important than the other things I had wanted. It was at that time I promised to never pray for anything material or job related again. And by the way, my brother makes something in the neighborhood of what your customer makes, so that kind of throws it in our faces a lot. Still, I’ll take good health. If you’re all healthy get down on your knees and thank God. Everything else is immaterial. (Sounds kind of preachy. Yikes!) Try to write down something you’re greatful for each day. It helps put things into perspective.
We’re some of those people who make a ton of money. We’ve lived in the same home for 24 years and a paid $115,000 for it. My husband works 60-70 hours a week. We’re some of those “rich” people that pay the bulk of the taxes in this country. Our parents started with nothing and worked their butts off. That’s what we’re doing, and what we’re teaching our kids to do.
What you’re going through isn’t fair and it’s really hard, but don’t blame us. My husband employs 75 people, who then have great health insurance, retirement, etc. If it weren’t for rich people, who would provide the jobs?
We’re some of those people who make a ton of money. We’ve lived in the same home for 24 years and a paid $115,000 for it. My husband works 60-70 hours a week. We’re some of those “rich” people that pay the bulk of the taxes in this country. Our parents started with nothing and worked their butts off. That’s what we’re doing, and what we’re teaching our kids to do.
What you’re going through isn’t fair and it’s really hard, but don’t blame us. My husband employs 75 people, who then have great health insurance, retirement, etc. If it weren’t for rich people, who would provide the jobs?
Oh boy, such a sad state so many are in. I know we have certainly had to cut corners and make sacrifices…but when I get the “woe is me” in my head, I remember that I am healthy, my husband is healthy, and my son is healthy. We have a roof over our head (for now) and food to eat…when we are lucky enough, we have an extra or two. I do misc. things to make extra money to fuel my addiction to fabric, fiber, etc. and squirrel away money when possible to something extra. I don’t knwo what the answer is (or I would be in the top 2%, wouldn’t I), but I do know that it seems that cycles happen, habits broken, reality checks done and then it all goes around again. I re-learned that in American History studying last year with my now senior year child. Hang in there Nicole, you will survive and boy, your blog brings a ray of light into my life when I read it. Try to smile everyday!
Oh boy, such a sad state so many are in. I know we have certainly had to cut corners and make sacrifices…but when I get the “woe is me” in my head, I remember that I am healthy, my husband is healthy, and my son is healthy. We have a roof over our head (for now) and food to eat…when we are lucky enough, we have an extra or two. I do misc. things to make extra money to fuel my addiction to fabric, fiber, etc. and squirrel away money when possible to something extra. I don’t knwo what the answer is (or I would be in the top 2%, wouldn’t I), but I do know that it seems that cycles happen, habits broken, reality checks done and then it all goes around again. I re-learned that in American History studying last year with my now senior year child. Hang in there Nicole, you will survive and boy, your blog brings a ray of light into my life when I read it. Try to smile everyday!
I’m going with she was fibbing 🙂 – if I made that kind of annual income, in this economy I would keep it to myself.
I’m going with she was fibbing 🙂 – if I made that kind of annual income, in this economy I would keep it to myself.
I haven’t read them all, but what I have – great comments so far, Nicole! You’ve begun a very relevant discussion! I wonder if that woman and her $3.5 mil is as happy as you are? I would much rather have my measly fabric stash to create and escape in than her bucks any old day! Now that we’re retired, we’re quite comfortable, but we do have to watch what we spend – it makes me think twice now about wanting this or that and I love my life and my husband even more now that we’re not faced with the daily stresses of work life and all the baggage that goes along with it! Who would have thought? Hang in there – your friends out in blog land are always here for you!
Cheers!
I haven’t read them all, but what I have – great comments so far, Nicole! You’ve begun a very relevant discussion! I wonder if that woman and her $3.5 mil is as happy as you are? I would much rather have my measly fabric stash to create and escape in than her bucks any old day! Now that we’re retired, we’re quite comfortable, but we do have to watch what we spend – it makes me think twice now about wanting this or that and I love my life and my husband even more now that we’re not faced with the daily stresses of work life and all the baggage that goes along with it! Who would have thought? Hang in there – your friends out in blog land are always here for you!
Cheers!
In the last few weeks I had been wondering how your life outside the blog world was going. Thanks for sharing, sometimes the blog world is very remote from what is really happening in our lifes.
In the last few weeks I had been wondering how your life outside the blog world was going. Thanks for sharing, sometimes the blog world is very remote from what is really happening in our lifes.
Don’t compare!! “When someone has been given much, much will be required in return; and when someone has been entrusted with much, even more will be required.”
Sure, I’d like to be one who much is given, sometimes….but try to appreciate every little thing I have, regardless of how much or how little.
My friend lives in Carmel and I heard about the whole car thing going on. It blows my mind to think of the money that’s being thrown around. I can only hope they are as generous in giving as they are with spending.
Don’t compare!! “When someone has been given much, much will be required in return; and when someone has been entrusted with much, even more will be required.”
Sure, I’d like to be one who much is given, sometimes….but try to appreciate every little thing I have, regardless of how much or how little.
My friend lives in Carmel and I heard about the whole car thing going on. It blows my mind to think of the money that’s being thrown around. I can only hope they are as generous in giving as they are with spending.
You are not alone…we want to move but husband can’t find a job and no one wants to buy our home that has depreciated in value over the last 3 years. Remember, what you see on the outside is not always what is going on the inside…some people may be financially secure, but family insecure. Be strong knowing that your inside is secure and persevere. Lisa in Texas
You are not alone…we want to move but husband can’t find a job and no one wants to buy our home that has depreciated in value over the last 3 years. Remember, what you see on the outside is not always what is going on the inside…some people may be financially secure, but family insecure. Be strong knowing that your inside is secure and persevere. Lisa in Texas
Hmmmm, 3,500,000 per year huh? I can’t even wrap my mind around that kind of money. Never had it, never will! Thing is Nicole, I just look at life as life. There are a lot of bumps in the road…a LOT of them. Some are easier to cope with than others. I try to maintain the attitude that when life happens, you just have to go with it. My mom always told me things had a way of working out, especially when everything looks grim. I’m 60 now…she was right. Don’t be upset with others good fortune Nicole…Without including money, try to look around and see the blessings in your life, see if the don’t overshadow the things that make you unhappy. I’m betting they will. Hugs…
Hmmmm, 3,500,000 per year huh? I can’t even wrap my mind around that kind of money. Never had it, never will! Thing is Nicole, I just look at life as life. There are a lot of bumps in the road…a LOT of them. Some are easier to cope with than others. I try to maintain the attitude that when life happens, you just have to go with it. My mom always told me things had a way of working out, especially when everything looks grim. I’m 60 now…she was right. Don’t be upset with others good fortune Nicole…Without including money, try to look around and see the blessings in your life, see if the don’t overshadow the things that make you unhappy. I’m betting they will. Hugs…
I come to your blog often and you give me inspiration. I totally understand your feelings and things will get better. Just think that lady may be listing her income a bit higher than it really is. Keep blogging and we will keep your spirits up.
Jeane
I come to your blog often and you give me inspiration. I totally understand your feelings and things will get better. Just think that lady may be listing her income a bit higher than it really is. Keep blogging and we will keep your spirits up.
Jeane
But is she happy, does she have a great family? You seem to have happiness and a lovely family that you enjoy being around. There are always going to be those better off and those worse off. We all need to be satisfied with our own circumstances. And seriously… how many zeros behind a number can you use???
But is she happy, does she have a great family? You seem to have happiness and a lovely family that you enjoy being around. There are always going to be those better off and those worse off. We all need to be satisfied with our own circumstances. And seriously… how many zeros behind a number can you use???
Isn’t that just amazing? 3,500,000…wow. We are just common working folks, and dang lucky to both be holding on to our jobs. We pay cash for what we buy, and no credit…so if we can’t pay, we don’t buy! I feel so bad for people who have lost jobs…just terrible.
Isn’t that just amazing? 3,500,000…wow. We are just common working folks, and dang lucky to both be holding on to our jobs. We pay cash for what we buy, and no credit…so if we can’t pay, we don’t buy! I feel so bad for people who have lost jobs…just terrible.
Sorry you have to be around all these rich people all the time… kind of a slap in the face for us hardworking folks.
I am glad you do see what good you have in your life (still have your home, etc)
Try to focus on that…. and stay strong.
SheilaC
Sorry you have to be around all these rich people all the time… kind of a slap in the face for us hardworking folks.
I am glad you do see what good you have in your life (still have your home, etc)
Try to focus on that…. and stay strong.
SheilaC
Wish I could post some magic words to make all the yuk in this world end! We all have to put one foot in front of the other…BUT we can secretly think (rich b#@!h) it helps sometimes. Humor helps me………….
Wish I could post some magic words to make all the yuk in this world end! We all have to put one foot in front of the other…BUT we can secretly think (rich b#@!h) it helps sometimes. Humor helps me………….
I totally understand Nicole. We live paycheck to paycheck. Yes, we live in Hawaii and I am a stay-at-home mom. The only reason why is my hubby is in the military and we were stationed here three years ago. We have three more years and then we have to move back to the mainland. I then have to get a job outside the home. With my husband going to be deployed a lot soon, I feel with my children as young as they are, I will stay home. I can only do this because I know he will have the same paycheck for the next three years. Guarenteed. Once he is retired from the military – I have to go back to work. But since I don’t have a college education and haven’t worked in 10 years (13 when he retires) I won’t get paid much, depending on what job he can get (if any), he won’t be paid much either.
I totally understand Nicole. We live paycheck to paycheck. Yes, we live in Hawaii and I am a stay-at-home mom. The only reason why is my hubby is in the military and we were stationed here three years ago. We have three more years and then we have to move back to the mainland. I then have to get a job outside the home. With my husband going to be deployed a lot soon, I feel with my children as young as they are, I will stay home. I can only do this because I know he will have the same paycheck for the next three years. Guarenteed. Once he is retired from the military – I have to go back to work. But since I don’t have a college education and haven’t worked in 10 years (13 when he retires) I won’t get paid much, depending on what job he can get (if any), he won’t be paid much either.
Assume she lied and go on with the life you love! 🙂
Assume she lied and go on with the life you love! 🙂
Chin up everything happens for a reason . I bet you if you showed that lady one of your quilts she would have bought it. I was in Carmel beginning of July, had I’d known you were there I would have stopped in. I am having a giveaway stop by if you wish.
Chin up everything happens for a reason . I bet you if you showed that lady one of your quilts she would have bought it. I was in Carmel beginning of July, had I’d known you were there I would have stopped in. I am having a giveaway stop by if you wish.
On a fun note, google that lady! Maybe you brushed elbows with a celeb =)
On a fun note, google that lady! Maybe you brushed elbows with a celeb =)
I’ve come to the conclusion that money or “being wealthy” does not mean anything about the person who has the money. Really dumb, immoral, unworthy folks can be stinking rich. All that matters is that we share, love and do the best that we can. Ok. Off my soapbox. I’m trying real hard to just be content. This year has been a difficult one for you. Hang in there! Better things are on the way!
I’ve come to the conclusion that money or “being wealthy” does not mean anything about the person who has the money. Really dumb, immoral, unworthy folks can be stinking rich. All that matters is that we share, love and do the best that we can. Ok. Off my soapbox. I’m trying real hard to just be content. This year has been a difficult one for you. Hang in there! Better things are on the way!